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Pain during sex

Pain during sex is a challenge that many women experience, but it is important to remember that there are ways to manage the pain and increase your sexual satisfaction. In this blog post, we will take a closer look at tips and tricks for dealing with pain during sex

Hugs and kisses to reduce pain experiences

Hugs and kisses are more than just romantic moments. It can also have a positive impact on your body's health. When you hug or kiss your partner, the body releases oxytocin, which is also called the love hormone. Oxytocin can help reduce pain experiences by affecting the pain centers in the brain and releasing endorphins, which are the body's natural painkillers. So the more foreplay and intimacy there is in connection with sex, the more the pelvic floor can open up and anxiety and stress can be reduced, which can reduce tension and tightness in the pelvic floor and increase your sexual satisfaction.

Pelvic floor training and relaxation

Many women believe that pelvic floor exercises are the only way to deal with pain during sex. It can also be good to become more familiar with your pelvic floor and train the pelvic floor so that it is balanced, stretched and open. But pain often indicates an overstretched pelvic floor, where too much pelvic floor exercise can increase the tension in the pelvic floor and worsen the pain. Therefore, it is better to focus on relaxing and stretching the pelvic floor, rather than strengthening it. Stretching and relaxation exercises can help reduce tension and tightness in the pelvic floor and reduce pain experiences. It may therefore be a good idea to see a physiotherapist or another expert who can help relieve tension and pain in the pelvic floor.

Get professional help

If the pain persists or gets worse, seek professional help from a doctor or sexologist. There may be an underlying medical condition causing the pain that requires treatment. But often it is something psychosomatic, where the body tenses up involuntarily due to previous trauma.

Try different positions

Some sexual positions may be more comfortable than others, depending on the location and intensity of the pain. Try experimenting with different positions and find out what works best for you and your partner. It can also be beneficial to have sex in new ways where penetration is not the focus. Among other things, it can be really nice to rub each other up and caress and kiss with clothes on - think back to your teenage years. Or deliberately avoid deep penetration, e.g. with a penetration buffer a la Ohnut.

Natural lubricant

Lube is said to be a game-changer when it comes to reducing friction and pain during sex. But it is important to remember that pain during sex cannot be solved with a simple "quick fix". The pain is an indication from your body that it is not ready for sexual activity. Lack of natural lubrication is also a communication from your body that it is not ready for penetration at all. It may be tempting to use more lube, but that will only be a Band-Aid and will not cure the root of the problem. Instead of focusing on adding more lube, you can increase your focus on intimacy, hugs and kisses. It's your way to natural lubrication, as it creates the love hormone oxytocin, which sends a rush of warmth and pleasure through your body and creates more wetness in the vagina. So the answer is not necessarily more lube, but rather more love and intimacy with yourself and your partner.

Communication and respect

Be aware that when it comes to pain during sex, you should never push through and ignore the pain. It will only worsen the situation. Remember that the pain is a communication from your body that there may be feelings and old experiences that require healing. Face the pain at the edge, where it doesn't overwhelm you, and notice what lies behind. Respect your body's needs and create an intimate and safe experience for yourself by listening to your body and communicating openly with your partner. It is important to talk openly and honestly with your partner about your experiences of pain during sex. This can help reduce anxiety and stress around the subject and open up a new way of being intimate without pain.

Posture and stretching

It is also worth mentioning that prolonged sitting positions can aggravate a painful pelvic floor. Therefore, it can be a good idea to take breaks and move regularly during the day. In addition, stretching exercises and relaxation exercises can help reduce tension and tightness in the pelvic floor.

Use of dilator

Using a dilator is an option for women who experience pain during sex due to vaginismus or other conditions that make it difficult to relax the vagina and thus lead to pain. A dilator is a device that helps gradually stretch the vagina. It can help reduce pain during sex by making the vagina more flexible and less tight. There are many different types of dilators that vary in size, shape and material. Most are made of plastic, silicone or rubber. At Gudindetemplet, we offer several different dildos that can be used as dilators, such as our Spiral Crystal Dildo , the Pleasure Wand and our Stella Glass Dildo . Made from high quality crystal or glass, these dildos are designed to be comfortable and easy to use.

If you suffer from vaginismus or other conditions that can cause pain during sex, it is important to consult a doctor or a specialist before starting to use a dilator. But once you've been given the green light, you can start exploring your body and increasing your sexual pleasure with the help of our dilator dildos.

Using a dilator can be a process that requires patience and time. But it can also be a very exciting and personal experience where you learn more about your body and your sexuality. Start with the smallest and slowly build up to a slightly larger size when you're ready.

By using a dilator gradually and regularly, you can achieve greater flexibility in your vagina, which can lead to less pain and more comfortable sex. Remember that it should absolutely not hurt to use. If you experience pain, stop use immediately. Penetration pains don't go away by pushing through them, but rather by meeting it at the limit and gently and lovingly expanding it from there. By expanding gradually, they will allow the body to release emotions and old experiences that lie behind the tensions, meaning that an emotional release and response can occur. A dilator practice is therefore good and for some extremely important to do at the same time as trauma release with a therapist.

Overall, it is important to remember that pain during sex is a real problem that should not be ignored. By taking the pain seriously and working to understand its cause, you can take steps to remedy the problem and achieve a more positive sexual experience.

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